Powerful people aren’t great lovers and they cheat more, study reveals

The image of powerful people—whether they’re billionaire CEOs, charismatic politicians, or influential celebrities—often carries an irresistible allure in fiction.

On the big screen or in romance novels, they’re depicted as strong, passionate, and endlessly desirable. But new research suggests that the reality behind the power might not be so romantic, especially when it comes to fidelity in relationships.

A recent study published in Archives of Sexual Behavior reveals a surprising connection between power and infidelity.

The study explores how power dynamics in intimate relationships can increase the likelihood of cheating. The findings suggest that power—whether in the form of wealth, influence, or social status—can significantly alter an individual’s self-perception and behaviour in romantic relationships, leading to an increased risk of infidelity.

Power and confidence: A dangerous link

The finding of the study indicated that individuals who feel more powerful than others within their relationships seemed to build a sense of increased confidence. This self-assurance, however, can make them feel entitled to pursue other romantic or sexual opportunities. Researchers suggest that those who have a high sense of power will tend to view themselves as more desirable and believe that they have more other choices outside of a relationship, which can lead to breaking their commitment toward their partner.

Those who seem to consider themselves more powerful tend to believe that they have something much more valuable to offer than their partners. This sense of superiority prompts them to think that they actually are entitled to other relationships, especially if they think that they are more desirable or potentially more capable of attracting others.

Gender doesn’t play a role

Interestingly, the study also debunked the long-standing assumption that men have a higher tendency to cheat than women. In earlier studies, it was often proved that due to their higher social status and consequential opportunities, men were considered more prone to cheating. Here, however, the study reported no significant gender difference in the likelihood of infidelity when power was included as a factor. Both men and women in positions of power were equally likely to stray when they perceived themselves as more desirable or having more options outside their relationship.

The dark side of power

Power makes one more attractive and confident. However, this is full of risks regarding relationships. The very qualities that make someone successful or influential—such as confidence and a sense of entitlement—can also make them more likely to disregard the commitments they’ve made to their partners. They can feel as if they have “better options” or that someone else will always be available to satisfy whatever needs they have, which deteriorates the base of trust and loyalty in the relationship.

The study’s findings highlight the importance of understanding how power dynamics can shape behaviours and perceptions within intimate relationships. While not every person in a position of power will cheat, the likelihood does increase when that power affects how they view themselves and their relationships.

While power may look attractive from the outside, it has potentially destructive effects on personal relationships. People with power often display confidence and a sense of entitlement, which can make them more likely to cheat. For those in relationships, it’s clear that while feeling powerful might boost confidence in the short term, it can create serious problems for long-term commitment and fidelity.